Yes that does make sense. Hopefully, it says something good about my character
I suppose it really bothered me because I wasn't even asked to do the dishes. Instead I was expected to do them. People just started giving me their dirty plates and the daughter gave me instructions on how to load the dish washer. It was very awkward for me.
It would have been better if she would have said, "Would you mind helping us with the dishes?" Of course, I would feel better about the situation because I was asked. As a result, I always make a conscious effort to ask people instead of telling them to do something. I hope to never make someone feel the way I felt that day.